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Spotlight Awesome or Awful?
While bold planning is unquestionably essential, yet it’s important to reconsider whether we are leading to a lopsided pattern of success or towards constructive purposeful success. The preternatural death of celebrities despite having a so called successful life full of glamour, money, fame, etc. raises questions of lifestyle satisfaction.
Surveying these trends whether in
Bollywood or Hollywood, one finds running through them two major currents of
thoughts; the first is the belief that the profit motive or the desire for
material rewards for individuals effort, which has throughout been
characterised as man’s progress and second is the claim that socialism is the
only equitable path to prosperity.
For the vast majority of people, the
removal of material incentives and rewards will merely act either as a
disincentive to work and produce or as an incentive to earn illegal rewards. We
should face the fact, whether we like it or not, that most men will be driven to
hard-work only by material rewards or fear, or a combination of both. A
particular unfortunate consequence of going too far in this direction makes us
overlook the overwhelming evidence that lead to psychological dysfunction.
The impulsive acts of suiciding,
drugs, alcohol overdose, alcohol poisoning, drugs and addictive choices,
overdose of sleeping pills are simply results of dysfunctional lifestyle. The
dark side of the so called glamorous world is the abusive nature of activities
that happen behind the scenes. Love affair for ulterior motives, betrayals, fake
friendships, stalkers under the cover of followers, unhealthy associations,
trolling, traps to hurt the careers of the promising individuals, sexual
harassment's, insecurities of losing the extravagant lifestyle etc. The concept
of casting couch is not unheard off. The “Me Too” movement triggered the
downfall of many, however, they revived their careers after a span of time but
the black mark on their character still remains.
The long established culture of
silence on relevant issues encourages limitless swamp of malice disguised as
modern and practical dealings. Unhealthy competition leads to people resorting
to misconducts and wrong doings. Trolling affects an individual’s sense of
self. Distorted thinking and deep emotional challenges subtly drives people
away from the core truth of life which is simple, deep and satisfying.
The paparazzi or gossip magazines
sounds interesting read for the layman but hurt the sentiments of the celebrities
who are talked about. So it’s time to consider whether this is an ethical
practice or not? Not everyone is comfortable discussing their failures,
bruises, breakups, divorces, health issues, married life, friendships, family
life, etc with the public at large, with people sharing their opinions on
things that are too personal for the individual, especially the ones that are
spoken in derogatory ways. Personal privacy code of conduct is a lost forgotten
concept. All these lead to self conscious behavioural patterns, fake
representations that all is well, peer pressure, family disagreements, finally mental
and emotional harassment's.
Fake friendships, love affairs for
ulterior motives, betrayals, unhealthy associations to gain popularity, rich
lifestyle, fandom, money, etc. is common in this world of artificiality. Late
night parties and unrestricted lifestyle looks appealing but costs heavily
making people lose the treasure of a balanced lifestyle and at the end making
one feel lonelier than before.
Press junket looks glamorous and fun
to attend but it makes celebrities tired to the point of breaking down. Sleep
deprivation caused due to gruelling work schedule leads to frustrations and
dissatisfaction and also leads to addictive choices.
A glamour world where people state
they are living a healthy lifestyle by revealing they are fitness freak by
showcasing their gym workouts. But something to reflect here is; are they truly
living a balanced and healthy lifestyle or are simply focused on their physical
self while ignoring their mental and emotional health and well-being. The
pressure to maintain your physical beauty blinds you from the work needed to
shine your inner beauty.
When individuals with no celebrity
status feel heavy they choose to go out for a walk or watch movies with friends
and family or eat in their favourite restaurants or go out for picnics etc to
feel better immediately but celebrities can’t enjoy these ordinary pleasures
which boost the mental and emotional state instantly avoiding sadness, stress
and enjoying peace because celebrities will be followed by journalists and
local public who sometimes choose obnoxious ways to get themselves photographed
with celebs and also get their autographs, leaving no personal space for the
celebs, except some celebrities who manage to cycle around the Mumbai city
inspite of their associated fandom.
But the question considering here is
whether snatching someone’s ordinary pleasures a moral conduct or do we need to
reflect on the societal patterns that pressurises people and takes away their
personal liberty. Everything looks and feels good initially but in the long run
and in the bigger picture it leads to unhealthy consequences.
The impression world is short lived, the expensive dresses and makeup kits, jewellery, etc. looks rich but is also a fake pleasure and true treasure lies in a balanced lifestyle. A lifestyle where no one is pushing you constantly, where you get sufficient family time and personal space to relish the beauty of being. Where you can practice self care beyond the physical self and get sufficient time to process your feelings and release your anxieties and refresh yourself. Huge expectations lead to perpetual disappointments. Though the large no. of auditions and rejections make one strong but in some cases it also leads to unhealthy practices with inferior choices to move up the ladder of so called success.
It’s time we need to save ourselves
by stop chasing the empty things and work towards the real pleasure and
satisfaction. A satisfied man is the richest man.
