Stop Abdicating - Own Your Amazement!
The one choice that can change your life forever is to own who you truly are. Own your dreams and believe its possible to achieve them. There might be real obstacles like lack of skills or experience, financial constraints, child responsibility, lack of time, health deficits, etc.; yet if you believe it’s possible, the way to achieve them will automatically present itself before you. Often what is holding us back from living a life true to ourselves are our insecurities, fear, familiarity, lack of self-worth, painful past experiences, lack of awareness, lack of confidence in ourselves, etc. Once we learn to get in touch with our inner-self and give ourselves the gift of acceptance whether its for our weaknesses or strengths, we can drive ourselves out of whatever is holding us back from living our best life.
Make yourself a priority. We often give others a special place in our lives and forget we are special too. The best way to practice making yourself a priority is to spend some time each day doing activities you personally enjoy doing. It can be really simple like drinking coffee or tea from your favorite mug or playing your favorite music at least once a day. These little things will ignite a spark of freshness within you and make you more joyful.
Listen to your body because it’s the temple of your existence. Give it rest when it demands rest. Pamper yourself with head massages, salt baths, sit in the sun, take a bubble bath with candles, listen to music, drive with the windows down, buy a bouquet of flowers, wear your favorite perfume, dance on your favorite tune, laugh loudly, schedule any needed checkups, buy a new water bottle, wear soft comfortable cloths, wrap yourself in a warm blanket and many other ways you can take care of yourself. Make exercise and nutrition your priority.
Make it a habit to squeeze some time of the day for yourself where you are all alone and you can spend that time on meditation and also talk to the incredible person that is “YOU” and process your thoughts and emotions. This practice is important for your well-being. It will be a great activity to ground yourself and remind you where you are playing it small. We often assume humility means playing small, but in true sense humility means to be you- no more, no less than that which you are. If you constantly keep yourself less than what you truly are, it will keep you from living an abundant life.
Remember, just as we are helpful and kind towards others, the same way we need to be kind and helpful towards ourselves too. The best way to do so is to raise your standards and stop yourself from wondering if you are good enough for people and start wondering if they are good enough for you. A lover doesn’t discourage your growth, a lover says “I see who you are today, I cannot wait to see who you will become tomorrow”. So, learn that any relationship whether its family, friend or anyone else who claims to love you will help you shine your brilliance and will not hold you back from your greatness. Surround yourself with genuine people who are good for your mental and emotional health. Surround yourself with people who are transparent in their approaches and who are wise enough to value everyone equally. The right people will celebrate who you are while helping you become a better version of yourself.
Also, it’s important for you to be your own lover. The butterfly is only beautiful because the caterpillar is brave. Learn to say “NO” to whatever derails you from the life you deserve. Stop self-sabotaging. Choose “YOU” first. Remember, you cannot pour from an empty vessel. You cannot give others what you don’t have yourself. Own your uniqueness. Own your wonderment. It’s an incredible experience. Don’t devoid yourself from such an experience. Once you give yourself the wings of freedom to be yourself in any set of circumstances, you’ll start acknowledging your greatness and live more abundantly. You are a treasure hidden within social conditioning. Let the transformation take place at core level. Let the world see you for who you truly are. Take a minute to compliment yourself and your journey. Give yourself the credit for overcoming the obstacles and shining with integrity despite the odds you had to face. You deserve the best. Take a moment to feel how truly special you are as an individual. Imagine yourself living a life true to yourself, where you can be your true self without any restrictions. You have to imagine yourself flying with joy, secure in your own being with no false masks to hide your greatness. You’ll then realize how powerful you are and how beautiful life can be for you. Astonish yourself with your own brilliance.