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The Introvert Way- Living A Quiet Life In A Noisy World.

The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.
Knowing Yourself is the beginning of all Wisdom. Accept everything about yourself - I mean everything, You are You & that is the beginning & the end - No Apologies, No Regrets. You can be a very Charismatic Introvert. Do not lose your inward peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. We can underestimate the value of Silence. We need to create ourselves, need to spend time alone. If you don't , you risk not knowing yourself & not realising your dreams. Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks Outside, Dreams; Who looks Inside, Awakes. There's Zero Correlation between being the best talker & having the best ideas.

Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center & have to find it again. In a gentle way, you can shake the world. Contrary to what people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. Infact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness & anxiety, & while an introvert  may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energised by being alone & whose energy is drained by being around other people. Introverts are concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts & feelings.

Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills & enjoy parties & business meetings, but after a while, wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, & family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak & often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.

Society has a funny perception of silence. It's as if something is terribly wrong if someone just wants to sit quietly by himself. Remember that there is such a thing as companionable silence. Its when two people are so relaxed & comfortable with each other that no words need to be spoken. And there's solitude too, which is the creatives refuge.

Introverts like silence & solitude because its during quiet times that many people, not just introverts, produce billion-dollar ideas, relax their minds, & recharge their bodies to face another day. An Introverted woman spends hours contemplating a thought or observing a pattern in her life. Don't think of introversion as something that needs to be cured... Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you are supposed to.

"Because I rant not, neither rave of what I feel, can you be so shallow as to dream that I feel nothing?" Introverts living under the Extroversion Ideal are like women in a mans world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are. Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but weve turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform.

In an Extroverted society, the difference between an introvert & an extrovert is that an introvert is often unconsciously deemed guilty until proven innocent. Introverts treasure the close relationships they have stretched so much to make. The limited circle is pure. When introverts are in conflict with each other... it may require a map in order to follow all the Silences, Non-Verbal Clues & Passive-Aggressive Behaviours! Like most quiet folks introverts liked talkative people when they were willing to do the talking themselves & did not expect them to keep up their end of it.
Because introverts are typically good listeners & atleast, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting & unsatisfying relationships.

If you are an introvert, you also know that the bias against quiet can cause deep psychic pain. As a child you might have overheard your parents apologise for your shyness, or at school you might have been prodded to come "out of your shell" - that noxious expression which fails to appreciate that some animals naturally carry shelter everywhere they go & some humans are just the same.

Now that you are an adult, you might still feel a pang of guilt when you decline a dinner invitation in favour of a good book. Or maybe you like to eat alone in restaurants & could do without the pitying looks from fellow diners. Or you are told that you are "in your head too much", a phrase that's often deployed against the quiet & cerebral. Or maybe there's another word for such people: "Thinkers". Lets clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because they dislike people. They hate small talk because they hate the barrier it creates between people. I believe that Introversion is one of the greatest strength. As Introverts have such strong inner life that they are never bored & only occasionally lonely. No matter what mayhem is happening around them, they know they can always turn inward.

Isn't it refreshing to know that what comes perfectly natural for you is your greatest strength? Your power is in your nature. You may not think it's a big deal that you can spend hours immersed in something that interests you - alone - but the extrovert next door has no idea how you do it.

I do feel that introverts have managed to make something that they can call their world... over time... little by little. And when they are inside it, to some extent, they feel relieved. But the very fact that to make such a world probably means that you are a weak person, that you bruise easily, don't people think it this way? And in the eyes of society at large, that world of theirs is a puny little thing. It's like a cardboard house: a puff of wind might carry it off somewhere. Introverts don't like small talk conversation, but they typically don't mind writing. The more people can "see" you on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Google+, or a blog, the more they will feel like they know you, even though you don't have one-on-one interaction with them. Shyness is about the fear of social judgements - at a job interview or a party or a class, you might be excessively worried about what people think of you. Whereas an introvert might not feel any of those things at all, they simply have the preference to be in a quieter setting.
The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases.