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The Way You Love Matters!

The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or being misunderstood or humiliated and the only thing people regret is that they didn't live boldly enough, that they didn't invest enough heart, didn't love enough. Nothing else really counts at all. Indifference & Neglect can damage or destroy the best relationships. Cheating & lying aren't struggles, they are the reasons to breakup. 

Part of the problem with the word "disability" is that it immediately suggests an in ability to see or hear or walk or talk or do such other things, which many of us take for granted. But what of people who can't feel? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? Or talk about their feelings? What of people who aren't able to form close & strong relationships because of their insecurities? What of people who are too obsessed with what others think & don't live with the dignity of being themselves. These, it seems to me are real disabilities. No relationship can function without trust. One should always stick to the formula of doubting the negative in life & have faith in the positive. 

Sometimes what we wait around a lifetime for with one person, we can find in a moment with someone else. We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is communication, commitment, loyalty, love, friendship & trust. The truth is hidden, in cases, of lack of trust. Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than what we're settling for. Only someone who doesn't exclude any experiences, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive & will himself sound the depths of his own being. When you don't feel, you are part of a bond or friendship, it's time to stop hanging in it. There should be a sense of mutual participation in any relationships. An actual execution of love is what matters. 

Don't give anyone the right to validate your existence. They should know that you belong in the same world where they belong. You have a heart which has it's own desires apart from theirs. You are an independent person with an independent will & identity of your own, which cannot be crushed to satisfy others. To share a same universe, you need to be independently combined towards any partnership. Where one soul feels dead or insignificant, that place & people are not meant for it. Wisdom of the witness. Depth to know.